Monday.....and Time for a Little Rant

Just a little rant this morning. I, (Golf), was on Swappernet this morning. I noticed something. The default setting, which it seems cannot be changed, for searches is for couples between 21 and 40. HELLO!!! Add this to the fact that when you fill out your profile, you're given the choice of age group that you're interested in. These are always, no older than 30, no older than 40, no younger than 30.....So people who don't want to play with some almost 60, but have no issue with someone closer to 50 simply puts no one over 50 and leave it at that.

We've been lifetime members there since 2000. And we've met some very nice and sexy people from there and have had some wonderful experiences. (See the post below this, we met those people through Swappernet) When we joined, we actually got to know the owners of the site and corresponded regularly with them. Now, lifetime members are treated as second class citizens, us older swingers are no longer part of their demographic. While we're still keeping our membership there (we paid for it), we'll look at other sites for meeting people.

This is a story about a swing party we attended. A little back ground, Golfnred.....Golf is the male half, obviously a golfer and Red is the female half.....You can imagine what that means. Actually, we're both redheads. But only he plays golf.

This story is set a house party we used to attend. Unfortunately, the person who was hosting it turned out to be a real creep....we did attend a few parties there, and some of the people in the story attended a party we hosted in our home. Oh, and the big thing in this story, this was Red's first time playing with other women. After this party, she always identifies herself as bisexual. It was a big turning point for us.

So without further ado.......

We arrived at Steve and Carol's house and were pleased to see

several other couples that we knew from previous parties. There

was Ethan and Amy, Brian and Kathy and of course Steve and Carol.

There were also two other couples that were new. The two new

couples were Bob and Nina and Mark and Connie. Steve introduced

everyone and we all sat down in the living room and related how

we had come to be in this alternative lifestyle. Turns out, Mark

and Connie had never been to a party before but had been curious

about what happens. They had written to Steve online and he had

invited them to the party so they could see that we were just

normal people who like to have fun, and liked to have sex with

people other than our spouses.

After we had all told how we started swinging, Bob decided to

pontificate about what the lifestyle was all about. I looked

around at the couples that we knew seeing rolling eyes and have

snickers. This guy obviously thought that he was talking to a

bunch of newbies, which none of us were. Finally, he shut up.

Steve went over the rules of the house and announced that the

party was officially under way.

Steve has this pool table in his basement; you've seen the

type. It's one that looks like the house was built around it and

it would survive a direct attack from a Mack truck. For the

party, he had covered it with comforters and pillows. Ethan, Amy,

Brian, Kathy, Carrie (my wife) and I headed down to the basement.

In about thirty seconds, we were all naked and climbing on the

pool table. At this point, I guess I should give you some

background on Carrie and I. We had started swinging about a year

and a half before. While we had been to a number of orgies, and

had played (fucked) other couples, most of the people we knew

were all straight. So when we played, it was always guys playing

with women. Carrie was a little curious about what it would be

like to have sex with another woman, but she had never acted on

her curiosity. Actually, she was a little nervous about how she

would react. And I was a little worried about how she would react

as well. We had seen another woman really freak out when a woman

touched her and it had almost spoiled a wonderful evening.

Carrie crawled over to me and after giving me one of her

deepest and sexiest kisses, proceeded to lean over and start

sucking on my cock. I looked over at Amy and saw her kissing

Kathy. We had seen them play together before so this was not a

surprise. Their husbands were standing around the table watching

their wives start the playtime. Steve came downstairs, after

watching the action for a minute, he came over to Carrie, and her

legs were hanging over the edge of the table, and gently moved

her legs apart. Carrie realized his intentions and spread her

legs wide to give him full access to her shaved pussy. Steve

wasted no time going to dinner and dove tongue first into her wet

pussy. At this point, Amy has disengaged herself from Kathy and

made her way over to me and started kissing me. Now, Carrie was

moaning from Steve's tongue action on her clit. I moved away from

her and turned my attention to Amy. As she and I kissed, her hand

moved down and started stroking my hard cock. Her mouth quickly

found it's way down to my oozing head and she started sucking me.

I looked over and saw the new couple, Mark and Connie. They were

sitting on a couch and just watching the action, looking rather

stunned, actually. I moved Amy around so that I could return the

oral favors she was bestowing on me and she moved on top of me,

her legs straddling my face. I wasted no time tasting her juices

and immediately started licking her slit and then sucking on her

clit. After we enjoyed this 69 for a while, I heard Carrie

moaning louder, then her unmistakable scream of orgasm. As usual,

she was the first to cum. From the angle I had, I could see Kathy

sucking on Ethan. Steve pulled away from Carrie and Brian took

his place. A few minutes later, Amy shuddered and moaned as she

had her first orgasm of the evening. She rolled off of me and

made her way over to Steve, hopping off the table and pushing him

onto it. She quickly latched on to his cock and started slurping

away. I moved over to Kathy and started kissing her. By now,

Ethan was slurping away on her pussy. She reached down and took

my cock and brought it to her lips. Man, could she suck cock! I

heard Carrie cum again and looked over as Brian stood up, his

face and moustache soaked from her juices. Kathy was still

sucking on Steve, but I watched her hand reach out and start to

caress Carrie's breasts. I could hear Carrie's breath returning

to normal. I watched as Kathy released Steve's cock and moved

over to Carrie. She climbed on the table and kissed Carrie.

Carrie didn't hesitate; she returned the kiss with passion. I

watched them kiss for a few moments, then watched as Kathy moved

down her body kissing and licking her breasts. She moved down and

I saw her tongue start to lick Carrie's pussy. Carrie's hands

reached down and pulled Kathy's face into her. After just a few

minutes, Carrie let loose a scream as she came again. Kathy gave

her one last look then stood up, a smile on her face. I moved

over and kissed my wife. "Enjoy that?" I asked. She just smiled

and nodded. We lay there a few minutes and just watched the

action. Steve had moved to the couch where Mark and Connie were

sitting. Connie had removed her top and her bra. Steve and Mark

were nibbling on her breasts. Amy was 69ing with Brian and Ethan

was going down on Kathy. Carrie and I started kissing.

I hopped off the table and pulled her to the edge. Now the pool

table is the perfect height for us, the edge of it lifts Carrie's

hips just enough that when we fuck with me standing on the floor,

my cock hits all the sensitive spots of her pussy. I moved

between her legs and pushed my cock into her. Slowly I started

fucking her. Amy has disengaged herself from Ethan and she came

over to us. She leaned down and kissed Carrie. The necked for a

while as I continued to stroke in and out of her. She then moved

down and started licking Carrie's clit, I pulled out and she gave

my a cock a few sucks before putting it back in Carrie's pussy. I

continued to pump my wife. Then she abruptly got up and straddled

Carrie's face. She leaned back and kissed me and I could my wife

eating her pussy. Carrie didn't miss a beat. I was doing my best

to hold back, but seeing Carrie eat pussy for the first time, and

have it happen as I was fucking her and kissing the woman she was

eating, I came, and I came hard. I pumped my cum into her pussy.

Carrie came as well, her cries of orgasm muffled by the pussy

sitting on face. Kathy orgasmed as well, her cries clear in the

room. I saw Amy, Ethan and Brian stop their three way as they

watched the three of us cum almost together. Kathy rolled off of

Carrie and I slowly stopped my pumping. Finally, my cock slid out

of Carrie, Kathy crawled over and starting sucking my deflating

cock, cleaning all of the cum and juices off of it. She then

moved to Carrie and licked her pussy clean as well. Carrie just

kept twitching as she had many mini orgasms. Finally, Carrie

pushed Kathy away and pulled her face to hers and gave her a deep

kiss. With that, Kathy smiled and moved over to Ethan pulling him

onto the table, she wasted no time in climbing on his cock.

Carrie stood up and kissed me. I had never thought in my wildest

fantasies that I would ever kiss my wife and taste pussy on her

lips. And did it ever taste good. Carrie hugged me and whispered

in my ear "Thank you". We watched the others for a while and then

quietly got dressed for the long drive home.

This was the party that burst the floodgates, now when we play;

Carrie is equally comfortable playing with either sex. And I get

to be the lucky one to watch and join in, but those are stories

for other days.

Age and Swinging

I was reading through Swinginpixie's blog about swinging and in one of her posts she talks about how people in their late 20's and early 30's don't really want to play with people who in their fifties. I can understand that. It's kind of strange for us to play with someone who is the same age as our youngest child. Somehow that just seems wrong. We tend to play with people within ten or so years of us. Beyond that, it's more about personality and attitude.

Part of our desire probably stems from the fact that we enjoy group action. When we go to parties or clubs, we tend to meet people we know and after some normal cocktail chitchat, we tend to gravitate to the play areas and get naked and start enjoying ourselves. Later, I'll describe one of those parties in more detail.

TMI Tuesday....

1. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?

Kanye West......

2. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?

Take each other out to dinner

3. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?

Hmmm.....interesting probably back to the late sixties with the wild and crazy times before AIDS.

4. What is your favorite curse word?

Bullshit!!!

5. You have the opportunity to sleep with the movie celebrity of your choice. We are talking no-strings-attached sex and it can only happen once. Who is the lucky celebrity of your choice?

Wow.....too many to count. Her, Sean Connery. Him, today it would be Dana Delaney!

Bonus (as in optional):You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?

Her, power to time travel, so many places in history to see. Him, power to fly, no more traffic.

So How Open Should You Be?

Interesting question.....you and your partner swing. That alone doesn't say much, but there are probably about as many ways to swing as there are people who swing. For us, we've tended to be the type that like parties where group play is the norm. She is bi-sexual when we play, or as she is fond of saying, "I'm an equal opportunity lover!" We find that group activities are the most enjoyable, when you have a lot of people piled on a bed, you tend to less worried if your partner is having a good time. And when do meet another couple, we always play in the same bed.

But now we're having the discussion over how open do we want our relationship to be. With a few exceptions, we've always played together. (Those exceptions were when the female half was out of town and he attended parties where we were friends with host alone but with her permission). He is starting a new job which will entail travel on a regular basis alone. And we're discussing what being in an open relationship actually means. We're leaning toward a regional rule, something along the lines of when we're in the same area, then we only play together. But when we're in different areas, we're free to enjoy others. Monogamy has never been that much of an issue for us. We were both sexually active in major cities before we met. So we both had experience with numerous other lovers, and we both always liked a variety in sexual partners, which contributed to our decision to open our marriage up.

Stay tuned, we'll let you know how it works.

Swinging at Our Age

Swinging once you're at our ages is different than what is was when we started all those years ago. First, your bodies are different. While Viagra, Cialis and Levitra help men out, but unfortunately nothing yet exists that medical experts have found for women. Some women continue with the same libido after menopause. Others find that they have a reduced libido. And for people who are active the lifestyle, this can make things a little more difficult.

Any who has been in this lifestyle knows one thing, it really is one driven by women. Women have the power of saying no, and since men are such hound dogs, they tend to control who does what, when. So if the female half of the couple has a reduction in her sex drive, that has a serious impact on a couple's play time. Post menopause, many women find their bodies changing and this can have a negative self image. From our own perspectives, we've learned that patience and communications are even more imperative now.

Welcome

Welcome to our miniscule part of cyberspace. First, a little about ourselves, we're a early fifties couple living in New England. We been together for over twenty years, married for almost sixteen. We've always been sexually progressive and have shared an alternative lifestyle for over nine years. So there a many blogs which deal with the general concept of swinging (some of the better ones we've found are listed to the right, but few that deal with the unique issues facing those will a little more gray in their hair. So with that in mind, let's let it all hang out.