So How Open Should You Be?

Interesting question.....you and your partner swing. That alone doesn't say much, but there are probably about as many ways to swing as there are people who swing. For us, we've tended to be the type that like parties where group play is the norm. She is bi-sexual when we play, or as she is fond of saying, "I'm an equal opportunity lover!" We find that group activities are the most enjoyable, when you have a lot of people piled on a bed, you tend to less worried if your partner is having a good time. And when do meet another couple, we always play in the same bed.

But now we're having the discussion over how open do we want our relationship to be. With a few exceptions, we've always played together. (Those exceptions were when the female half was out of town and he attended parties where we were friends with host alone but with her permission). He is starting a new job which will entail travel on a regular basis alone. And we're discussing what being in an open relationship actually means. We're leaning toward a regional rule, something along the lines of when we're in the same area, then we only play together. But when we're in different areas, we're free to enjoy others. Monogamy has never been that much of an issue for us. We were both sexually active in major cities before we met. So we both had experience with numerous other lovers, and we both always liked a variety in sexual partners, which contributed to our decision to open our marriage up.

Stay tuned, we'll let you know how it works.